Whoever coined the phrase “terrible twos” must have stopped the parenting process right before their child turned 3-years-old. Seriously, because in my house, these days it seems as though the words “terrible” and “THREE” can go hand-in-hand.
At 2-years-old, my son Aiden was the sweetest thing ever. Yes, he had some trouble sharing his toys, saying the word “yes” as often as he said the word “no,” and controlling his tantrums. However, that didn’t matter so much because he was so small and so cute and didn’t have the extensive vocabulary to verbalize his thoughts. After all, he was only 2-years-old.
Enter age three. Aiden has a vocabulary – a very big one, and one that he is not afraid to use. The boy will speak his mind and tell every and anybody exactly what he’s thinking. I love that about him. Sometimes.
Other times, eh, not so much. But I digress.
Sometimes it’s almost as if he forgets he knows words. Any words. When Aiden is upset or sad or excited or any range of emotions besides just plain happy, he forgets that he knows how to use words. He’ll scream or jump or kick or have a full-blown tantrum – usually in public – instead of using his words. Whether ecstatic or sullen, he expresses himself in a very physical way. Each. And. Every. Time.
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I totally agree about those sweet little two-year olds...and three-year-old tantrums can get so much louder than 2-year old tantrums! I also agree with you on spanking. I don't like what it teaches. Nice article!
ReplyDeleteCarla
Those days are so far behind me that . . . I really miss them! Laughter! I know. I know. But I really do miss them. There are so many things I would do differently.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing, and most of all thanks for helping me with my writing. Yeah, I am learning the art of writing from reading post such as yours.
Have a grand day!
Our son just turned two in January....when I heard that the threes were deemed "terrible" too, I almost fainted...definitely gonna have to walk in faith with this one because our house is full of tantrums, "no mommy"s, and explanations of why hitting, biting, etc are not acceptable...I don't know how the moms with two toddlers to it...LOL
ReplyDeleteStay strong!
I have to admit that age two really hasn't been that terrible. It's the closer we get to age three that I'm seeing Moo trying to test her will a little bit and see just what she can get away with.
ReplyDeleteI find the older my son gets the more interesting life has become. I have to remind him to 'use your words' otherwise he will just whine and that drives me nuts.
ReplyDeleteYes, the term should be "terrible three's". Two yr. olds are still half baby acting so the things they do are cute and funny. Age 3, they know how to voice their every opinion and say what they want to say whenever they want to say it. They are like unfiltered little adults.
ReplyDeleteOh no! There is a terrible three's too! Oy! I love that you can tell me what I have to "look forward" to!
ReplyDeleteYour first paragraph says it all. I was just talking about this yesterday with my doctor (as she was giving me a breast exam LOL). Because realistically, terrible twos don't start until about two & a half so it flows right into three!
ReplyDeleteYou are living my life. I think I might take a parenting sabbatical until she turns four.
ReplyDeletelol, that first paragraph was so funny i had to read it aloud to derek. and just when we thought our life was about to get easier, as chase approaches 3. hehehe!
ReplyDeleteThat is too funny! Good luck girl!
ReplyDeleteI'm trying to travel back 11.5 years and don't think we had this experience. My little BIG man has his father's temperament. You're a goodcmom so I'm certain you will teach Aiden the skills to work through this phase. Praying for you. Parenting ain't easy even with help/advice from books & others.
ReplyDelete@Jasmine: Girl... you aint never lied! Two toddlers... I just can't. LOL. My heart goes out to them.
ReplyDelete@Laila: "Use your words" is the catch phrase in my house. LOL.
@Lauren: ANYTIME!
@Denise: Umm.. take me with you! *wink*