I've ventured out and re-entered the dating scene after going through a dry spell since
Applauds. Air kisses. And high fives all around.
I've been meticulously lining up babysitters for my midweek rendezvous, and believe me, that's no easy task. But it's been worth it for me. Because it's been fun. Really fun.
Those beautiful eyes, that smooth skin, those kissable lips... but enough about me already! There's this one guy...
My goodness!
He's tall (easily 6 feet), good looking (gorgeous caramel skin), hilarious, well-educated, ambitious, and just all around, well, yummy. Definitely my type.
We've been hanging out and trying things out for a few weeks. It's been fun.
And the kisses? Ohmygosh! Passionate. Fireworks. Yummy, delicious, gimme-some-more kind of kisses.
Wowsa!
But this single momma followed her intuition when she had the "something's not quite right" feeling. (Proof that growing pains are there for a reason.) And you know the old adage, if something seems too good to be true...
Turns out, he's just a little bit single. Sort of. He's got a girlfriend. Sort of. They've been on a break for quite some time. Sort of.
I have respect for relationships. Even "on a break" ones. And I'm nobody's side chick. Even those with yummy, delicious, gimme-some-more kind of kisses.
But there's a silver lining -- there's always a silver lining. I've come to an epiphany of sorts. See, I've been taking care of Number 1 (myself) and putting Number 1 (myself) first since breaking up with my ex. And it feels good. Very good. Damn good.
When I'm in a relationship, I tend to love hard. Very hard. But the emotional energy that it takes to maintain a relationship is just too much for me right now. After all, my last serious relationship was so so heavy and certainly didn't go so so well. Now I'm just at a point where I want to focus on myself and Aiden.
But I'm enjoying dating. And I'm enjoying my midweek rendezvous. So this single momma is officially dating... again. And totally taking it easy while enjoying Mr. Right Now.
Maybe I'm just scared.
Or maybe...
Maybe I'm just smart for finally trusting my "take it slow" instincts.
It's there for a reason, right?
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Oh wow I can relate to this post. Taking it slow sometimes is the best to make sure any mistakes made before won't be made again. Like you I don't have the emotional energy for a relationship now either. I started dating after a very long break but that still didn't work out too well. I'm so use to being in a relationship that it's like I have to learn to just date all over again. Good luck with dating and hopefully you won't have to kiss too many frogs to find your prince (that just inspired a blog post!).
ReplyDeleteWoohoo for dating again! I think part of it is being scared...but a huge part is knowing to take it slow. The manfriend and I are on a little break right now (my secret's out since I haven't blogged about that yet!) to try and slow things down since we are both scared since there's so much at stake.
ReplyDeleteRegardless, it's just fun to get back out there. And it's definitely fun to kiss again! Good luck and most importantly, have fun!
Way to go!!! Have fun out there!
ReplyDeleteYou go head mama! Glad that you are back dating and that you haven't given up on love. Yes, those instincts are there for a reason. Continue to follow them. Can't wait to hear more about your dating adventures.
ReplyDeleteGirl, you are too funny with those kisses...but it's good that you're out on the scene again. Have fun and do trust your instincts! Good Luck!
ReplyDeleteGood for you!! Sounds like you're back in the game with your head on straight, so wishing you lots of fun and lots more of those delicious kisses from a fabulous AND unattached man!
ReplyDeleteI think it's great that you're getting back out there. Dating can be extremely fun. Of course you'll meet some individuals that may not be all of what they have seemed to be, but it's all about trial and error. It comes with the territory of starting over. It's a risk for anyone.
ReplyDeleteGood luck and have fun!
Yay for dating again!!! Good for you for trusting your instincts with this guy {even though his kisses were amazing.} You will find Mr. Right, but enjoy this time of dating!
ReplyDeleteGlad you're back to dating, it's fun and scary at the same time, but what in life isn't that way? A new job, being a new mom, riding a bike or learning how to swim...all of them take some getting used to! GO FOR IT!
ReplyDeleteSo happy to hear you are dating again. You are young, single and beautiful, why not? I agree take it slow and just have fun for goodness sake!
ReplyDeleteWell enjoy yourself and be safe!! You sure deserve some fun with the opposite sex :-)
ReplyDeleteDating is fun! And even better with you going in with your eyes wide open!
ReplyDeleteStep by step is always best. As I read, I could sense that you were in a happy mood! Good for you!
ReplyDeleteAnd, yes, I will see you at the next event!
Have fun for me too!!!! I hope that you have a VERY fun summer...wink wink...
ReplyDeletethe one thing we as women have to follow and trust is our gut instinct, that feeling when something just doesn't feel right.. because, girl, 90% of the time when you have that feeling, it just isn't right...
ReplyDeletekudos to getting back into the dating game..
I have no dating advice for you. I just love reading about your experiences and the thrill of getting out there again. Applause, applause!
ReplyDeleteInstincts are there for a reason!!!! Good job lady!!! Good job having fun, taking care of #1 and allowing yourself to be treated like a princess.
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You had me cracking up with the kisses bit...lol, am sure I will be considering the yumminess levels of a kiss from now on. All the best to you for being brave enough to get out there again with open eyes and heart. It is very exciting, and I am so happy that you are enjoying it!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the nomination. Did you win? Happy that you got back in the game. I'm sidelined right now. For some of the same reasons as you but mostly because I'm not feeling most of these dudes. Grad school is a serious grind so I need someone who can fit into that flow.
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