Summer Lovin'

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"Summer sun, something's begun, but uh-oh those Summer nights..."

I've said this before, but one of the best things about being single in a city like New York is that this place is lousy with fine men! FIONE men! And they all seem to come out of their hibernation during the Summer months. Happens every year. I spot them almost everywhere -- at rooftop happy hours, at outdoor dining areas, on The HighLine, walking around Midtown, during Saturday night clubbing with the girls -- everywhere.

In fact, just a few weeks ago, I told my girl L that we'll be spending more time outdoors this Summer. I mean, I might as well meet some of these single men while the weather's warm. But, er, finding these guys is only half the battle. Engaging in conversation and making sure he's a winner is the other piece of the puzzle.

While I typically don't have a difficult time meeting guys because a confident smile, a nod, and a wave hello almost always does the trick of getting him to come talk to me (now you know my secret), last week I participated in a Twitter chat with Single Edition and Relationship Expert, Rori Raye, and I was very pleased with the tips she provided for ways to get him to notice you and enjoy a little Summer lovin'.

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"Summer fling, don't mean a thing, but uh-oh those Summer nights..."

Here are a few of the takeaway points that I got from Rori's talk and live stream video afterwards:
1.  Get out and live your life. That's when/how you'll meet the person you're looking for! (Amen, Rori! I'm a firm believer that you should stop looking for Mr. Right and find your "happy" instead. Then, Mr. Right will come along.)

2.  Stop going down a mental road and analyzing every single word of a text message/email/phone conversation with the person you're dating. Most of the time it's just a string of words put together and you're just making a big deal out of nothing. (Okay, I'll admit it: I'm guilty of this sometimes. But, I'm getting a lot better at not doing this these days because I'm being more purposeful with my precious time. #JustSaying

3.  Things will happen (or not happen) in a relationship when it happens (or doesn't happen.) In other words: chill out and relax because you'll be okay. (I'm so much better at doing this these days too! I must be becoming a more mature dater.)

About Rori:
"Rori teaches specific things you can do to raise your self-esteem that will make you irresitible to a man. To learn more, subscribe to her FREE relationship advice e-newsletter. You'll learn a whole new way of relating to men that will make you feel better about yourself while you find the relationship of your dreams."

Happy Dating, folks!

"Summer heat, boy and girl meet, but uh-oh those Summer nights..."


{Disclaimer: This post is being sponsored by Rori Raye.}